For many years, I thought my goal in life was to be happy and comfortable. And like the smart lass I was, I pursued that goal diligently.
By taking comfortable interesting temp jobs, and changing them every three months when I got bored.
By buying plenty of DVDs and computer games and books and entertainments.
By eating exactly what I wanted to eat.
By getting rid of the crazy friends of my early 20s and keeping the ones who were enjoyable company.
I listened to podcasts on the bus, read books in my lunch, played games every night… I’d engineered my life to be as chock-full of happiness as I could manage.
So why was I restless?
Why did I feel like something was missing? I had the perfect life!
I was disoriented and ashamed by a persistent undercurrent of rage: rage at not knowing what I was doing wrong, at not being able to figure out how my perfect life wasn’t as satisfying as it was supposed to be. I distracted myself for years with junk food and yet more entertainment, but that just made the problem worse.
One day I decided that there might be more to life than comfort and happiness. I thought, “Hey, why don’t I give struggle and difficulty a try?”
This was the first time in my natural-achiever, never-an-athlete, cruising- by, doing-just-fine life that the idea of voluntarily choosing discomfort had occurred to me. Up until that point I was very clear that the lack of disasters and traumas and suckness were entirely a good thing. I was smart enough to get by without effort, and that meant I won, right?
But I didn’t feel like a winner, so…
I started very small: I went to a personal trainer three times a week. And there I found out that if the trainer knew my breakpoint, I could trust them and push through wayyyyy more discomfort than I suspected.
Then later I decided to see if I could complete the exams to become a Microsoft Certified Systems Engineer despite having only a semi-technical job.
And I started a teeny-weeny website that could one day turn into a business maybe sort of kind of?
I was not happy while I was running up and down the room carrying medicine balls.
I was not happy while I was trying to learn about the difference between Active Directory universal and global groups.
I was not happy when I was figuring out how to insert Buy Now buttons.
But I was a thousand times more engaged than I would be sitting on the couch watching DVD box sets. Once I got over the initial oh-this-is-so-hard-whyyyy bump, I was in a state of flow, sometimes for hours on end: time flew by unnoticed as I was wrapped up in what I was doing.
And then there were successes: when I passed the exam or finished the set or received ten comments on a post I felt a whole-body surge of YESSS.
Triumph beat boring old happiness hollow. I still use the memory of me with that first pass certification in my hand as a quick shorthand to feelings of power and pride and glory. It was amazing.
Happiness was less enjoyable than struggling to create something important.
Staying awake at 3am writing sales pages in my head was better than a comfy safe job.
Discomfort was more satisfying than comfort.
I made a lot of changes.
Nowadays I run my own full-time marketing business, which involves regular freak-outs and incredible satisfaction.
And one of the special delights of my work is helping people go from meh to a-freakin-maaaazing.
I don’t make people happy, or comfortable. I set them on fire with their own talent and feed the blaze.
Because I know, from many years of experience, that it’s so much better to burn.
Catherine spends her days helping world-changers create marketing from their magnificence. She guarantees epiphanies within 15 minutes in her free 30-minute Marketing Check-up, or your money back.
But wait there’s more!
I’ve mentioned Catherine her many times on my blog because she really helped me with a breakthrough point in my blog.
She’s the reason I wrote The Secret I’m Most Afraid to Tell You. A while back I was feeling like maybe I had something with the blog, maybe I could start a business, maybe I could travel indefinitely. It felt like a big tangled ball of yarn.
I had something in my hand but I had no idea what it was or what to do with it.
I had a coaching session with Catherine and she untangled this ball of yarn and I left feeling excited and having a direction. So now Catherine has launched a new product called:
It’s for people who also have that tangled ball of yarn, this just isn’t a blogger thing but:
- jewellery making
- travel blogging
- video editing
- website design
It’s for anything that you could do as a job, as a hobby, as a piece of art or craft…it’s for all of our tangled balls of yarn.
It’s all the tools you need to unravel your greatness: a beautiful workbook, 65 flash cards, 2 audio CDs, an hour with her, and mystery additions, all in a pretty box that arrives at your door, for $297.
I know you’re thinking wow that’s expensive but let me say, you get what you pay for. I paid a lot for a one hour call with Catherine and within the first 15 minutes I felt like I had my money’s worth.
At the end of the hour I was exhausted and excited and I knew this year would be amazing.
If you feel passionate about something you are doing on the side and think you can turn this into a business this is perfect for you.
It’s about going from: wishing you could do more to actually doing it.
If you’re still unsure Catherine has a great page explaining everything here. There are few people in life that impress me and this woman blows me away.
Check it out and I promise you won’t be disappointed.