I know I share a lot on this site, maybe even too much. But I loathe to talk about my love life. The truth is, I dated while I was away but it is impossible to keep something going, especially when you are traveling farther and farther away from that person.
I can’t stay single forever.
Soon after I arrived home people overwhelmingly suggested that I start online dating. I know it’s their way of taking care of me, they are happily married and want the same for me. But even though I still hadn’t found an apartment apparently I needed to find a boyfriend. Now.
Online dating is fairly common in Toronto, in a city where people are too busy to take a lunch break, online dating is embraced. I know several couples who met online and openly talk about it. So to get people off my back I joined a free site, I had been on it years ago and met some nice people. Afterall I’m trying to jump-start a new life, right?
What I hadn’t realized was that like the city and all my friends, this free site had changed. Nearly everyone who contacted me had XXX in their name.
Really? Who does that?
So finally one nice guy emailed me, or at least he seemed to be nice until he asked me if I was “looking for fun…” Even though it sounded like he was a creep, I asked what he meant. Guess what, he’s just looking for someone to sleep with.
Dude, I have enough men in my life who want to sleep with me but not be my boyfriend. Girls don’t need to go online to find sex.
Seriously that was my response to him. Not surprisingly he didn’t write back.
It wasn’t so bad that he just wanted to hook up. There are certainly sites like that or cheating sites like Ashley Madison. But the deal breaker was clearly he is so stupid that he doesn’t know women don’t need online dating for sex.
So as I tell my friends this story they laugh, apparently because it’s free you get what you pay for. And over pints one of my male friends tells me I should at least try some of the for-pay sites, after all it would make a good blog post And with that he suckered me in.
If I really believe in 30-day challenges I should do a 30-day online dating challenge, because really there is nothing to lose. Is 30 days enough time to find a boyfriend?